She Said No


Daughter informed me today she turned down offer by famed NYC restaurant group. I’m not surprised because I could tell from our conversations that she was leaning that way.

I think it came down to her sense that it wasn’t the right fit for her. NOT that she couldn’t handle the work or the hours, even the low pay starting out.

When I asked, now what, there was a slight pause, then an outline of what she hopes to do next.

She knew she had our support no matter what she decided. That’s the best part of being a parent to fully functioning, capable, independent, and talented kids. We leave it up to THEM to make their own choices.

The good news is that being unemployed she will be able to participate in family Thanksgiving and Gram’s 99th birthday. Had she taken the job, holidays for the foreseeable future would have been work days.


11 thoughts on “She Said No

  1. Okay, at least she made a decision. I’m sure it weighed heavily on her and I’m sure she knew many wanted her to take the job. Did you ever tell her you blogged about it?

  2. Good for you to understand this was her decision and hers alone. I am sure it was tough. I’d be hard pressed to start over, considering she’s worked so hard and come very far. Yet I can understand why you’d want her to take the job too.

  3. I’m proud of her and she isn’t even my daughter. Takes courage and guts to say no to a great offer. At the end of the day, the offer wasn’t great enough. I doubt she’ll regret her decision. Something much better is in her future.

    1. As I said, my kids are incredibly strong, incredibly talented, very very independent and good at solving problems. I didn’t run to their defense every time they failed as kids and I think this gave them a great deal of inner resolve. I knew she had to come at this her own way, solve it the way that was right for her life.

      I have no doubt she’ll find something.

    2. Probably most of us, definitely me, have been in multiple fork in the road life situations where I chose one way and other interested parties told me I was making a big mistake and would regret it. Not saying this is your daughter’s situation. But looking back, I don’t regret any one of those decisions. Funny thing is, I could have probably taken the other fork and made that work as well.

      1. My dad was faced with a few of these forks and each time he took the road less traveled and found it was the filled with amazing experiences he would never have had had he done was was “expected” of him. I think we are a family on non-conformists.

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