You wouldn’t be reading this if I thought a Day Without A Woman was a great idea

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This event by far the stupidest, most inane, least friendly to working women idea I’ve ever heard of.

The creators want women to stay home from work and boycott stores that don’t have women working or are women owned. Must be a whole lot of dumb blondes who thought this up.

Anyone, anywhere, can join by making March 8th A Day Without a Woman, in one or all of the following ways:

  1. Women take the day off, from paid and unpaid labor
  2. Avoid shopping for one day (with exceptions for small, women- and minority-owned businesses).
  3. Wear RED in solidarity with A Day Without A Woman

So let’s see, if I am a working mom, I’m supposed to give up a day’s pay to stay home and do what? Watch TV and eat bon bons? And my boss is going to say, sure, I’m down with that, take the day off? It’s not a sick day, and really, you’d be willing to take a personal day to wear red? If I were your boss and you asked for a personal day for A Day Without a Women, I’d laugh, then I’d say No and if you insist, I’d say You’re Fired.

To not engage in Unpaid Work? So if I’m a dedicated volunteer to a local libray or museum or any civic group, I’m supposed to abandon my obligation so the men in these groups will appreciate me more? What kind of backasswards thought is that?

The Number Two suggestion struck me as quite sexist actually: Don’t shop for one day? Is that to say women can’t go one day without shopping? Holy cow.

This is the template for the letter you are asked to submit to your employer. Stupid is as stupid does.

Dear [INSERT NAME OF SUPERVISOR],

I am writing to inform you that in honor of International Women’s Day, I will not be working on Wednesday, March 8th, as part of the Women’s March’s A Day Without A Woman.

The Women’s March organized this day in the same spirit of love and liberation that inspired the march on January 21, 2017. A Day Without A Woman is a recognition of the enormous value that women of all backgrounds add to our socio-economic system — and the pervasive and systemic gender-based inequalities that still exist within our society, from the wage gap, to vulnerability to discrimination, sexual harassment, and job insecurity.

I hope you will stand in support of me, and any of my women colleagues who choose to participate, in observance of this day. Places of employment can participate by closing for the day or giving women workers the day off, whether paid or unpaid. Even more important than the symbolism of standing with women on March 8, the Women’s March is asking all employers to perform an audit of their policies impacting women and families. By ensuring that women have pay equity, a livable wage and paid leave, businesses can demonstrate that their long-term actions align with the values we are standing up for on this day.

I am extremely dedicated to my work at [INSERT NAME OF EMPLOYER]. I respect the value of work, and I respect [INSERT NAME OF EMPLOYER]’s values. At an increasingly insecure time for the rights of women and other minority groups, it is important to me that I also stand for the value of equality. I hope you will support me in my decision.

Two districts school in Virginia are closed while women teachers are in solidarity with this march. This truly is wrong. If I’m a working mom and my kids teachers go on strike for the day, I have to take the day off or hire someone to care for my children? How on earth is this pro-women? It’s not, not in the least.

A Day Without a Woman seems perfect for spoiled rich progressives, women who aren’t working 9-5 to keep ahead of the next bill or working to put food on the table for themselves or their children.

Like the Women’s March in January, the naive women organizers of today’s protest who think these events are remotely productive might want to visit the Middle East then see how good women actually DO have it here.

I come from a long line of very strong women. Women who are successful, whether out in the workforce or successful as wives and mothers. I don’t define my entire being by my gender. I am not invincible. I am not Wonder Woman. I am complex, and like most women I know, I juggle lots during a day or week or year.

I’ve got a very busy day today with no time for such frivolities as wearing red. Actually, I should wear black, in mourning for the loss of real women who understand that a woman is a cog in the wheels of life.

 

 

29 thoughts on “You wouldn’t be reading this if I thought a Day Without A Woman was a great idea

    1. I never take offense at differing views. Your analysis might be correct from the vantage point of those organizing the event, BUT, as a woman of a certain age (almost 70), we women fought our way to the top by working all day every day, longer if needed. I never asked for special treatment. I never would have thought to ask for a day off because I am a woman. I’ve worked in many an all-male or male dominated environments. I’ve never been treated as someone lesser. The ONE time I thought I was indispensable (and not for my gender but because of my talent) I was fired and replaced very quickly.

      I feel strongly that this event gives women a sense that its their GENDER and gender only that makes them better. It is not (in my opinion). It is who you are, how hard you work (whether at the office or at home).

  1. I agree with you 100%

    Of course the world cannot run without women, but these sorts of “showings” are ridiculous. All ego. Just go about your day, humbly knowing Who is in charge. Why do they need to prove something, what are they afraid of?

    1. I’m with you EOS, and Martha. 10000%. Perhaps it’s generational and I’m old like you EOS, although Martha is young, in your 40s?

      I worked my way up the corporate ladder like all the other women my age, ignoring the Gloria Steinem feminist line. I became a full time mom late in life but never felt is was a lesser choice than my workaday career but feminists sure wanted us to feel like shit.

      I feel sorry for this group of women who feel their gender is what makes them important.

        1. We have
          Mother’s Day
          Valentine Day
          Provider of feasts on Thanksgiving and Xmas
          What more could a woman ask for than to to make her loved-ones happy.

          UhOh, what if you have no kids, no boyfriend, can’t cook?….
          that’s where Feast of Immaculate Conception comes in.

      1. I had to calculate–but it’ll be 49 next month. Hubs is turning 50 in June while the boys are at camp, so I’m trying to plan something fun–maybe a fancy dinner in the city & hotel if we are feeling rich.

        1. Just a baby. Those of us turning 70 are pining for the good old days of being 50. Keep us in the loop of where you choose to celebrate.
          We have friends who just had a birthday at the Comedy Cellar in the city. How about something like that? Or a cool jazz club?

  2. My wife agrees that this message is all wrong for young women. Our daughter was raised understanding women can be strong, successful, worthy, and appreciated, but she also learned a more valuable lesson: that the world does NOT revolve around women. Like you said, women are an important cog in the world of life but it takes men and women for the cog to move up the hill.

  3. I just got back from running errands – bank, grocery store, post office, etc. I didn’t see 1 woman wearing red nor did I see males working in their place – anywhere. I predict this assholery will have all the impact of A Day Without Immigrants. It went by unnoticed where I live. As it should.

    1. Bingo. Excellent comment.

      Update: I just spoke to my youngest daughter, 31. I asked her if she was staying home from work today or wearing red (I knew the answer in advance). She laughed. I asked if any of her peers thought this protest was something they bought into. Nope, not a one. So who then is the target audience of A Day Without a Woman, I asked her. She said, brilliantly, Social Media. She said it’s great as a public person to post a photo of yourself or other women, dressed in red or being in solidarity with the movement. Get thousands of Likes and call it a day. Double Bingo.

  4. There’s a photo in the WSJ now, women in London protesting. I don’t know how to link the photo here or I would post it but the gist is women are wearing t-shirts saying Ask me about my feminist agenda. Some women are carrying signs, one says Tell Him Not to Rape,. Another says Don’t tell me what to wear. Life is a box of chocolates but these women are all nuts.

  5. I agree with all the comments about not going to work for a day. I worked in the City of London on the Stock Exchange when there were not many women – I would have lost my job if I had not turned up (still would), the same for the men. Having said that, we in the UK owe a tremendous debt to the Female Machinests Strike at Ford Dagenham who went on strike for equal pay for women in the 1960’s. They were the first ones to stand up for equal pay for women. Barbara Castle later Baroness Castle brought in the “Equal Pay Act” as a result. If you have time watch the movie “Made In Dagenham” its accurate.

    1. Thanks for your point of view and real life experience comment. You’re right, saying there have been real causes and reasons for women to fight. Your examples prove that so. They were the heroes.

      I read that some protesters are blocking traffic at Columbus Circle. Please tell me what this disobedience has to do with women?

        1. There’s a NY news channel that posted a photo of a smiling Linda Sansur being handcuffed at the Columbus Circle protest. She wants the fame. She’s shameful.

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