Uh oh, looks like I got my marching orders from my sister for the code of behavior at mom’s birthday party….
We will not talk politics!!!!!
My sister went from a Romney Republican to a Hillary devotee in one election cycle, but honestly it was more that she detested Trump, hated what he stood for or against, hated his boorish persona, hated what he said or didn’t say about women. Early on during the primaries, she’d often say Hillary is NOT my candidate. But something clicked and she became a champion for Hillary, even buying one of Hillary’s Woman Cards. Hey, that’s her right and privilege. I would never deny anyone their say, their vote. That’s democracy.
She slowly stopped calling me because she was sure I’d want to talk about Trump. Her conversations turned singularly to email, and only when there was something that had to be organized. And yesterday, when the email came with only a subject and no content, I paused, irritated.
Irritated for what, you ask? Not what you think. I was irritated she thought I’d come to mom’s party with my gang of Trump lovers and rub it in her face. I would never, not in a million years, make anyone feel badly about a loss. Whether its a personal loss or in this case, a political loss, I respect the process too much to flaunt a win for my side.
I’m hurt that she doesn’t know me enough to realize after all these years as sisters, I would never make her feel crummy. I realize she’s angry that Trump won. She said through my mother that if Giuliani becomes Secretary of State, she’ll move to Mexico. Interesting. Her husband is a Trump hater too, a NYC architect and the AIA has long-standing feuds with the Trump organization, so he felt he couldn’t vote for Trump. Again, that’s his choice. He made up his mind how he felt.
I’ve read that a lot of families are fractured over the election because let’s face it, both candidates were polarizing. But it never occurred to me that my OWN family would enter into a feud.
I’m not going to respond to her email because at this point, I doubt she’d care if I said I wouldn’t have dreamed of bringing up politics at a birthday party. I’ll have to let her cool off, but since there is more than one event during the week my mother is in the city, looks like we’re going to be talking a whole lot about the weather and fashion. Oh Joy!
Anyone else facing family division over Thanksgiving?