I’d say, as a whole, the EOS family is very generous of spirit – we give time to causes and organizations that are important to us. We do it throughout the year, without any desire for attention and not to see our names on a list. It was how I was raised, so as my kids grew up, I made it a priority to teach them how important it is to give time.
At some point though, the kids have to decide as adults if giving back is a natural part of their being when I’m not there to say let’s go.
Enter Thanksgiving 2015. We’re a rag tag group this year, most heading elsewhere with significant others or to be with aunts in RI who actually still COOK for Thanksgiving (I do not). We will have gathered en masse just three days before Thanksgiving in NYC to celebrate my mother’s birthday so going separate ways for Thanksgiving itself is not foreign. With one child in the food service industry who opts to work on Thanksgiving so she can get Christmas off, we let Thanksgiving kinda slide as a gathering time in favor of Christmas.
ANYWAYS……………………………..I put it this way to the couple who will be around:
Shall we work some shifts at Grace Church Soup Kitchen or make reservations at either the Inn at Pound Ridge or the new iteration of the Bedford Post, Campagna? Sure they’d pick volunteering, I was instead met with this……….
One outright said No to volunteering (that day). The other said can’t we do both?
So I’m at a crossroads – I say the right thing to do is work all day at the soup kitchen but if the others don’t want to, then what good is it to force them? None that I see. Nothing is worse than making someone feel guilty that they aren’t doing what you expect of them when what you expect might only be right for you. Does that make any sense?
We’re back at square one, undecided.
This does look mighty fine….
But then again………..so does this…
It would be one thing if we never volunteered other times during the year, then giving one day at Thanksgiving is like saying you go to church when you only attend services on Christmas and Easter. I don’t want to be a hypocrite here and get the kids to give back for the sake of giving back. Or do I?