This is The Dumbest Thing a Realtor Can Do


Any real estate firm that limits access to their listings and/or photos gets an automatic boot from me. Do they honestly not know that I can keep looking until I find exactly what I want without giving them my name and email address???

In a day and age when 99.99% of home-buyers look online first, why a company would insert an egregious pop-up requiring registration is totally counter intuitive to sales.


22 thoughts on “This is The Dumbest Thing a Realtor Can Do

    1. Great story and link Chris. The comment sat in a queue overnight to be approved. Did you sneak across the fence to the event this year or go with a ticket in hand? A few Bedford folk are there now.

      I know the Riegel family – one branch lives here in Bedford.

      As for the Indian motorcycles – so many of my guy friends growing up had and loved their classic Indians that they raced through the hundreds of acre fields on duPont estates that dotted the Greenville/Centreville area.

      1. naw, no sneaking any more (too old, too slow). caught the free show on the avenues, but, watched the main event via the Motor Trend Channel on my iPad.

  1. We’re home. The kids hated to come back east, so did my husband, but I’m fine with being in Bedford. I foresee doing mounds of laundry today and sorting through thousands of digital photos to make an Apple book as a keepsake for the long trip. The children voted Montana their favorite state. Hubby loved Utah. He said he would quit work tomorrow to move to a slower pace of life with the opportunity to ski without driving six hours to Vermont. I think I’d miss the east coast and our Adirondack cottage but so far I’m the only one who feels that way.

    Missed reading your blog every day but as is our rule every summer, we unplug as much as possible. With so much to see and do everyday, the phones and iPad’s were not missed.

    Lunch this week? Call me.

    1. Welcome home. Would love to see your western trip photos and of course, it goes without saying, anything you want everyone to see you can email me to post here.

      I’m around this week, begrudgingly, having the same antsy feeling your husband and kids have about wanting to leave Bedford behind, permanently.

  2. My wife is feeling antsy as well, says she’s stifled living in Greenwich. She grew up in Chicago proper and misses the city vibe of raising children. We couldn’t afford staying in NYC with two children and she unwillingly came to Greenwich. It’s hard when one half is unhappy.

    1. We struggled with this too when we moved to Florida. Although both of us wanted out of the northeast cold and taxes, my wife was less enthusiastic. She worried about starting a new social life for us, making friends, and leaving our built in network of neighbors. She was unhappy for almost a year but we’ve settled in. I can relate to your woe Anonymous that when the wife is unhappy, no one is happy.

      1. I’ve been really feeling the need to move. There are always so many reasons NOT to go – selling a house that still needs work, starting all over in a new town, a new state, etc. But the tugging is so strong I’m not sure how long I can hang in here without bursting for new experiences.

        1. Where would you throw the dart?

          My husband is so serious about moving, he’s calling realtors this week to get an appraisal of our home to sell. He’s HAD it at work – up at 4am and on the train by 5. Not home until 6:30p. He’s exhausted. We’re financially secure thanks to his years of hard work but hubby feels that’s given me and the kids a better life than his own. I understand that but I’d still be unsure about all of us leaving for Montana or Utah or Wyoming.

        2. My old house was built in the 1820’s. Every few years we would get the urge to move and would do the necessary work before putting it on the market. Each time, the sprucing up convinced us to stay. Until the last time. We decluttered, we painted, repaired a wobbly staircase, refinished floors, replastered walls and replaced light fixtures. The costs of addressing deferred maintenance were more than reasonable. Once listed, it no longer felt like my home.
          Another reason we dragged our feet for so many years was we couldn’t agree where to go next. We looked at houses in five states before moving to the old hometown. Knowing the neighborhoods, the shopping, the roads and restaurants made the adjustment easy.
          The trade-off is being away from organizations and activities which were such a big part of our lives. Some can’t be duplicated but there are new ones to take up some of the slack.
          Maybe your move to RI isn’t all that far in the future.

        3. [Mr. EOS, close your ears]. I can’t live in RI year-round. The town is very far away from anything, which is why it is so well loved by many, but I need lots to do. Perhaps it’s latent ADD, or growing up being half a city girl and half a country girl. Bedford is the same. I’ve been here so long that I’ve been there done that with everything here. Maybe I’m having a late midlife crisis that I’m so anxious for a change of venue. Perhaps it’s the feeling of disgust seeing my tax bills. One of my kids is looking at an adorable house to buy in Pound Ridge. Teeny but right in his budget and just what he wants. But the tax load for .91 acres is $8,000/year.

          I’ve seen so many of my friends pack up and leave. For less expensive pastures. They all love it. I’d throw my dart in North Carolina I think, or South Carolina. I don’t think I could do Florida (sorry Peter).

        4. Wouldn’t you be trading small town for small town leaving Bedford for North Carolina? What could you gain by moving there, other than the obvious, the financial gain?

          Florida can be decent if you pick the right town. We’re in the posh burbs of Miami but with the convenience of if city life nearby.

        5. Ay, there’s the rub. Finding a town that is nearby a city, or is a small enough city with cultural amentiies or a university. My cousin lives in Charlottesville, Va. They moved there from New Jersey and never looked back. Now, caveat, she grew up in C’ville, so she still has family and built-in friends and was able to easily rejoin the country club she belonged to as a teen.

  3. We moved here (voluntarily) in the late 1990s, in our 40s, from metro NY, and have been very happy. My point is not to tout LR per se, but to say that if you have a drive to relocate away from the Northeast Corridor (when I had spent my whole life), it can work out very well! Our only “secret” was having several friends and acquaintances here (literally, just 3 couples, only one of which we knew well) who gave us some guidance about neighborhoods and schools. Also, we deliberately chose a dense neighborhood — think of what you see out the right side windows of the northbound New Haven Line when you’re pulling out of Pelham — that’s centrally located. I don’t think it would’ve worked out so well for us if we’d chosen a more private place with acreage.

    While EOS refers to a friend who moved BACK to Charlottesville, I’ll bet you could make a happy move there without having that history. In smaller towns, it’s much easier to find out about things that interest you, and get involved.

    1. Charlottesville is exactly what I envision. Lots to do. Beautiful countryside. Easy to fly out of Raleigh. Pretty houses. The University. My only hesitation is horning in on someone’s locale. My cousin and I have different interests and I wouldn’t know how to say no if she wanted me to play bridge with her friends etc. take C’ville and find me a duplicate in NC or SC.

    1. Yep … my husband pitches hay in his old Wall Street suits, and I do my internet shopping in Zsa Zsa – knockoff caftans. What could be better?

      1. Mr. EOS and I think alike for so many things EXCEPT where to live. His druthers, never leaving the RI zip code. Me, dividing time among three places. 🙂

  4. ALL places are great! Just like LRRR recounted. Luckily (by design) have lived+worked in Mt. Kisco, Fairfield, Patterson, City Island, SoHo, Atlanta, Dallas, Santa Monica, Dallas, Honolulu, Stockbridge, Lenox, Chatham, Greenwich.
    Commuting to/fro NYC daily is a hell unto itself.
    Any hell is better than to have children dans nyc. Even Montana! joke
    Living here, NYC downtown has the best coastline and peeps.
    Endlessly walkable, + culture, engaging tourists, movies, art…..amtrick, airports, boats and bikes.
    All places are expensive?

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