Gosh Darn It. Sometimes Life Stinks! Big Time.
This gorgeous and vibrant young woman died Thursday. Age 36. The wife of the younger son of my Iowa friend Diana. The mother to the adorable boy Samuel Thomas born a mere fifteen months ago. A fabulous kindergarten teacher. In a split second Adrienne was gone.
She was unaware of a heart valve problem that was never diagnosed, never even detected, so her heart stopped in an instant and she died without hope of resuscitation. She was home. The baby was in his crib napping. And when her husband came home at the end of the day, he found her.
The grief is overwhelming. How does one cope with a loss that is so unexpected? What is the baby sensing?
Adrienne and Michael married in 2010, a wedding we went to Iowa to witness. A match that was perfect. They each waited a long time to find the right person and when they did, everyone knew Michael and Ade (as she was lovingly called) had found their lifetime partner.
Adrienne was the quintessential “ask a busy person to do one more thing” personality. Juggling teaching full-time (which she adored and the kids loved her too), to being a new mom and wife. No easy task but Ade did it all with grace and a sense of humor.
But today, her family and friends say goodbye. The service in the same gorgeous chapel in which she and Michael so happily wed. The pain everyone is feeling is so deep, deep to the core, still in shock, unable to comprehend how one minute someone is there. The next minute gone. Their faith is strong and I trust their faith and lots of family and friends gathering a ring around Michael and Samuel will keep him able to get from one day to the next. It won’t be easy.
I guess the old adage is true: always say I Love You as you walk out the door – to your spouse, your partner, your children, your best friend. Who knows if it will be the last time.